Imagine a leader who jet-sets around the globe but blithely ignores the needs of his nation. He forgets to see that his people have good food to eat and clean water to drink. He turns a deaf ear to the people's needs, because he is so busy hobnobbing with other leaders. How long do you suppose the local folks would put up with it? Dont you think they'd find a way to revolt? If you think this is merely a description of a former president or Wall Street CEO's guess again.
It's the same inside of you.
Bong Hit or Bush-Whacked?
Being so busy that you disregard your own needs is a set-up for a bite in the backside (self sabotage) pretty much every time. It is arrogant to think that you can drive yourself to achieve unreasonable goals. Maybe you get sick on your vacation, or get lost and are late to an important meeting, blow the diet you've been doing so well on...or have a photo of you partying hit the internet. What might seem like sabotage are simply pleas for your attention from some part of you.
The photo last week of Michael Phelps smoking pot was an illustration of these phenomena. A snapshot of Phelps daily schedule was: he woke up, trained, ate and slept -- for years. Who could live with that level of imbalance in his daily life? I believe that like you and I, even a world-class athlete need to have a life. If that authentic balance is upset, there are consequences. Sponsors loved his squeaky clean image, and that bong hit may cost Phelps millions. He bush-whacked his bank account.
In last weeks post many of your comments asked about how to turn off self-sabotage. In my coaching practice, I consistently see that executives have been so task oriented that they aren't listening to themselves or their clients effectively. Listening to your inner feedback system is one of the fastest ways to avoid making mistakes or setting objectives that are unrealistic.
Hey, If You Won't Listen To Yourself Who Else Will?
Listening to you is pretty darned easy, and it packs a whopping payoff. It's how you get the lowdown on what lifts you and what doesn't. It shifts taking good care of yourself and your organization from a little theory into specific choices and actions.
You don't have to take just my word for it. Studies show that honoring your inherent knowing makes you feel cheerier. The International Journal of Aging and Human Development, for instance, recently reported that people who have a sense of autonomy and make decisions for themselves are three times more satisfied with their lives than those who don't.
Are you ready to get out of the way and let your dreams have a say?
Email Eli at firstname.lastname@example.org or go to www.elidavidson.com today. Eli Davidson is a nationally recognized executive coach and motivational speaker.
Her book, "Funky to Fabulous: Surefire Success Stories for The Savvy, Sassy and Swamped", (Oak Grove Publishing) has won three national book awards. Eli is a reinvention catalyst, who can transform your professional and personal life from Funky to Fabulous with her ten, trademarked Turnaround Techniques that create rapid and remarkable results.