Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Tips To Avoid Harassment

The David Letterman case is revealing the nasty face of sexual harassment. Here are unexpected tips to help avoid harassment.

You Teach People How To Treat You:

From the first day you walk in the door First, always what you say and how you behave. Don’t let the door be opened to disrespectful behavior.

Dress For Success:

Third, dress conservatively. Sure, they wear mini skirts on TV and magazines. So if you want to be taken seriously, then dress seriously.

Give Them What They Want:

Sexual harassers are insecure men. The best way to diffuse harassment is to... give them what they want: attention and praise.Complement them. If they had more self respect they would treat women with more respect. Acknowledge their work, the plant on their desk or best of all their hobby. It will distract them from harassing you.

Nip It In The Bud:

From the first smell of harassment be firm but confront the harasser. “It makes me uncomfortable when you _____. “ Short direct sentences and concrete examples work best.

Dear Diary:

Keep a very detailed diary of the incidents. Listen to yourself. If you are at all uncomfortable, then something is wrong. If the behavior persists tell a supervisor. Harassment is illegal and you will want a very clear paper trail and as many witnesses as possible.

As a life coach and motivational speaker I find that harassment can easily be avoided, My hope is that exposing the very ugly face of harassment will give the women and men the courage to stand up taller, and not allow this behavior to continue.

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