Why is Allee Willis’s new video “Hey, Jerrie” one of the fastest growing videos on YouTube? Because it’s what I call The Anthem of the “YES YOU CAN” Movement. This post is the launch of our movement. So read on!
As a coach and speaker I am blessed to meet with so many amazing women and men. In these very interesting times I’m seeing a trend of people giving up on themselves. Do you have dreams that are still unfulfilled? Do they sit in the dusty, dark corner of the utility closet of your life?
Why does this happen?
Because of what you are telling yourself. Don’t believe me?
Do you find yourself telling yourself any of the following?
I can’t. I don’t have the training.
I can’t. I am too old.
I can’t. I might fail.
Each of us (myself included) pile that utility closet of our mind so full of negative garbage that it is no wonder that we never get to our dreams.
You already know that what you focus on grows. Here are some videos to give you the motivation to throw out your excuses instead of your dreams.
Funky or Fabulous
Every minute is a battle between two four letter words.
So…What is this moment going to be?
There is so much to learn from the amazing Allee Willis that proves every one of your “No, I Can’t” theories wrong. A few months ago, Allee and I sat down and chatted about process. It was remarkable how similar her creative process and the coaching process were. Here are some behind the scenes moments captured on my humble Flip camera. If you want to see an artist that is fully engaged in the creative process study Allee. If you have a goal to reinvent any part of your life study Allee.
No Training…Yes You Can!
Allee Willis doesn’t know how to read, write or play music.
Yet, she is a Grammy winner who has sold over 50,000,000 albums.
Allee is a white woman (ok…she is from Detroit) who wrote many of the disco anthems for Earth, Wind and Fire. She wrote the theme for Friends. She is a brilliant visionary that created Willisville (eBay years before eBay) with her partner the equally amazing Grammy, Emmy and MTV award winning Prudence Fenton. Allee had never written a musical and went on to write the Tony Award nominated, The Color Purple. Oprah loved it enough to make it her own.
But How?
How do you dive into a new area with no training? The first step is to tell yourself, “Yes, I Can.” Impossible as it seems, I have reinvented my own career several times and assisted clients to reinvent their careers. (One example was that I had never taken a writing class and wrote a book that won three national book awards.)
Allee said that she hears songs in her head.
My client, Kelly listened to her gut instinct and applied for a job -even though she wasn’t qualified. She got the job instead of the 800 other applicants.
One common key was listening. From many of my past posts you know that I am a big fan of listening.
Take 15 minutes today and listen to yourself.
Hear what you are saying. Check it out. If it works for you follow your inner guidance.
Too Old…. Yes You Can!
Come on! Jerrie Thill is 91 and on an oxygen tank. Follow Jerrie’s lead. She’d take a drum over a diamond. Jerrie is doing what she loves. Are you?
But How?
Take 15 minutes today to do what you love. Dance, make a mud pie, and wear a tiara. If you don’t know what you love - do something you loved as a child. Remember, anybody can do anything for 15 minutes.
I Might Fail… Yes You Can!
Learn from Allee. I believe the one reason that Allee has the freedom to be a genius in so many areas is that she is focused on the process. She is learning every step of the way. When you look at your life as a process of expanding your wisdom and loving there are no failures. You continually learn and grow from each experience.
But How?
Did anyone give you The Instruction Manual for your life? I never got one, so if you did please send it over. If you are like me you are learning as you go. Let life teach you. Be open to learn. Value the process- regardless of the results.
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Are you ready to get out of the way and let your dreams have a say?
Email Eli at info@elidavidson.com or go to www.elidavidson.com today. Eli Davidson is a nationally recognized executive coach and motivational speaker.
Her book, "Funky to Fabulous: Surefire Success Stories for The Savvy, Sassy and Swamped", (Oak Grove Publishing) has won three national book awards. Eli is a reinvention catalyst, who can transform your professional and personal life from Funky to Fabulous with her ten, trademarked Turnaround Techniques that create rapid and remarkable results.
Friday, February 13, 2009
Friday, February 06, 2009
Funky to Fabulous: Are You Bush Whacking Yourself?
Imagine a leader who jet-sets around the globe but blithely ignores the needs of his nation. He forgets to see that his people have good food to eat and clean water to drink. He turns a deaf ear to the people's needs, because he is so busy hobnobbing with other leaders. How long do you suppose the local folks would put up with it? Dont you think they'd find a way to revolt? If you think this is merely a description of a former president or Wall Street CEO's guess again.
It's the same inside of you.
Bong Hit or Bush-Whacked?
Being so busy that you disregard your own needs is a set-up for a bite in the backside (self sabotage) pretty much every time. It is arrogant to think that you can drive yourself to achieve unreasonable goals. Maybe you get sick on your vacation, or get lost and are late to an important meeting, blow the diet you've been doing so well on...or have a photo of you partying hit the internet. What might seem like sabotage are simply pleas for your attention from some part of you.
The photo last week of Michael Phelps smoking pot was an illustration of these phenomena. A snapshot of Phelps daily schedule was: he woke up, trained, ate and slept -- for years. Who could live with that level of imbalance in his daily life? I believe that like you and I, even a world-class athlete need to have a life. If that authentic balance is upset, there are consequences. Sponsors loved his squeaky clean image, and that bong hit may cost Phelps millions. He bush-whacked his bank account.
In last weeks post many of your comments asked about how to turn off self-sabotage. In my coaching practice, I consistently see that executives have been so task oriented that they aren't listening to themselves or their clients effectively. Listening to your inner feedback system is one of the fastest ways to avoid making mistakes or setting objectives that are unrealistic.
Hey, If You Won't Listen To Yourself Who Else Will?
Listening to you is pretty darned easy, and it packs a whopping payoff. It's how you get the lowdown on what lifts you and what doesn't. It shifts taking good care of yourself and your organization from a little theory into specific choices and actions.
You don't have to take just my word for it. Studies show that honoring your inherent knowing makes you feel cheerier. The International Journal of Aging and Human Development, for instance, recently reported that people who have a sense of autonomy and make decisions for themselves are three times more satisfied with their lives than those who don't.
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Are you ready to get out of the way and let your dreams have a say?
Email Eli at info@elidavidson.com or go to www.elidavidson.com today. Eli Davidson is a nationally recognized executive coach and motivational speaker.
Her book, "Funky to Fabulous: Surefire Success Stories for The Savvy, Sassy and Swamped", (Oak Grove Publishing) has won three national book awards. Eli is a reinvention catalyst, who can transform your professional and personal life from Funky to Fabulous with her ten, trademarked Turnaround Techniques that create rapid and remarkable results.
It's the same inside of you.
Bong Hit or Bush-Whacked?
Being so busy that you disregard your own needs is a set-up for a bite in the backside (self sabotage) pretty much every time. It is arrogant to think that you can drive yourself to achieve unreasonable goals. Maybe you get sick on your vacation, or get lost and are late to an important meeting, blow the diet you've been doing so well on...or have a photo of you partying hit the internet. What might seem like sabotage are simply pleas for your attention from some part of you.
The photo last week of Michael Phelps smoking pot was an illustration of these phenomena. A snapshot of Phelps daily schedule was: he woke up, trained, ate and slept -- for years. Who could live with that level of imbalance in his daily life? I believe that like you and I, even a world-class athlete need to have a life. If that authentic balance is upset, there are consequences. Sponsors loved his squeaky clean image, and that bong hit may cost Phelps millions. He bush-whacked his bank account.
In last weeks post many of your comments asked about how to turn off self-sabotage. In my coaching practice, I consistently see that executives have been so task oriented that they aren't listening to themselves or their clients effectively. Listening to your inner feedback system is one of the fastest ways to avoid making mistakes or setting objectives that are unrealistic.
Hey, If You Won't Listen To Yourself Who Else Will?
Listening to you is pretty darned easy, and it packs a whopping payoff. It's how you get the lowdown on what lifts you and what doesn't. It shifts taking good care of yourself and your organization from a little theory into specific choices and actions.
You don't have to take just my word for it. Studies show that honoring your inherent knowing makes you feel cheerier. The International Journal of Aging and Human Development, for instance, recently reported that people who have a sense of autonomy and make decisions for themselves are three times more satisfied with their lives than those who don't.
***
Are you ready to get out of the way and let your dreams have a say?
Email Eli at info@elidavidson.com or go to www.elidavidson.com today. Eli Davidson is a nationally recognized executive coach and motivational speaker.
Her book, "Funky to Fabulous: Surefire Success Stories for The Savvy, Sassy and Swamped", (Oak Grove Publishing) has won three national book awards. Eli is a reinvention catalyst, who can transform your professional and personal life from Funky to Fabulous with her ten, trademarked Turnaround Techniques that create rapid and remarkable results.
Monday, February 02, 2009
Funky To Fabulous: How To Stop Self Sabotage
Self-Sabotage Antidote
Step One: Get Real
*One of the best ways to be of service to yourself and others is to make small goals and achieve them.
*Being part of a supportive community is a key component in dismantling failure.
*Write down your goals and find a buddy or group to help you make sure that your goals are realistic.
Step Two: Turn Down The Criticism Committee
* Ask yourself the following:
"Am I doing the best I can?" (The answer is probably yes.)
"Can I be more compassionate with myself?" (The answer is probably yes.)
"Is there someone that I can ask for help?" (The answer is probably yes.)
Step Three: Just Do It
* It's harder to say, "Oh, screw it!" or spend your day on Facebook if you are accountable to others.
* Just do it. Set realistic goals and check in with at least one person daily to make sure that you are on track.
ARE YOU TIRED OF SAYING "OH SCREW IT!" TO YOUR DREAMS? GET A NO COST BEHAVIOR ASSESSMENT AND SAMPLE SESSION WITH ELI
CALL TODAY! 310. 842.8076
***Ask Eli a question at info@elidavidson.com or go to www.elidavidson.com to tell Eli how you have overcome self sabotage.
Eli Davidson is a nationally recognized woman's executive coach and motivational speaker.
Her book, Funky to Fabulous: Surefire Success Stories for The Savvy, Sassy and Swamped, (Oak Grove Publishing) has won three national book awards.
Step One: Get Real
*One of the best ways to be of service to yourself and others is to make small goals and achieve them.
*Being part of a supportive community is a key component in dismantling failure.
*Write down your goals and find a buddy or group to help you make sure that your goals are realistic.
Step Two: Turn Down The Criticism Committee
* Ask yourself the following:
"Am I doing the best I can?" (The answer is probably yes.)
"Can I be more compassionate with myself?" (The answer is probably yes.)
"Is there someone that I can ask for help?" (The answer is probably yes.)
Step Three: Just Do It
* It's harder to say, "Oh, screw it!" or spend your day on Facebook if you are accountable to others.
* Just do it. Set realistic goals and check in with at least one person daily to make sure that you are on track.
ARE YOU TIRED OF SAYING "OH SCREW IT!" TO YOUR DREAMS? GET A NO COST BEHAVIOR ASSESSMENT AND SAMPLE SESSION WITH ELI
CALL TODAY! 310. 842.8076
***Ask Eli a question at info@elidavidson.com or go to www.elidavidson.com to tell Eli how you have overcome self sabotage.
Eli Davidson is a nationally recognized woman's executive coach and motivational speaker.
Her book, Funky to Fabulous: Surefire Success Stories for The Savvy, Sassy and Swamped, (Oak Grove Publishing) has won three national book awards.
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